Having sex for the first time? Here’s what to expect.
The first time, a.k.a. losing it, being deflowered, breaking the seal, losing your innocence, popping the cherry — there are lots of names for it. But when you’ve decided to have sex for the first time, the names don’t matter. What matters is being ready and having some idea of what it’s all about.
Pre-Play
When the big day (or more likely, night) arrives, no matter how you set it up — with candles, champagne, and sexy lingerie, or as just another night — it’s bound to be more exciting, and at least a little more nerve wracking, than your standard hook-up.
So do yourself a few favors. First, have protection ready. There’s enough to worry about without having to add concern about contracting an infection or dealing with a pregnancy. If you don’t have a supply of condoms, go get some. Frank Littlefield*, a senior at Boston University, remembers making a fast trip to the store on his first night. He was at a friend’s house for a holiday party. When he discovered both he and his (also virginal) partner were latex-less, he “ran to the drug store. I grabbed one of those 75-cent single packs, and sprinted back. She was waiting for me.”
Next, get in the mood. This is supposed to be fun, so relax and enjoy it. Turn on some sexy music, and then it’s time for — hey guys, are you paying attention? — foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. The more excited and worked up you both are, the easier and smoother the whole thing will be.
Getting In
Take it from the veterans: Penetration is rarely as easy as it looks in the movies. So you can probably expect a little, er, poking around before the ship docks in the port. And don’t be surprised if a little manhandling is required. Sharon LaRusso, a senior at UCLA who lost her virginity at age 17, recalls the pre-entry moment as silly, but fun. “There were a few mis-pokes around my thighs. Then he guided it in with his hands,” she remembers.
Prior to experiencing sex, most virgins have heard from a variety of sources that the first time hurts for a woman. According to most women — and some men — this was their biggest concern about the whole experience. The truth? First-time sex may be a tad wince-worthy, but you’re not passing a kidney stone. “It hurt a little, but nowhere near as much as I’d expected,” says Lindsay Kelly, a senior at the University of Delaware who lost it at age 19. Gretchen Lazlo, a sophomore at Colby College and a virgin till age 16, says, “It was a little uncomfortable at first, but I wouldn’t call it painful.”
According to these same women, the best way to make it as painless as possible can be summed up in two words: Go slow. John Tatum of Emory University remembers asking his partner, who was also a virgin, several times how she was doing and if it hurt. “I knew that if she didn’t like it the first time, she probably wouldn’t want to sleep with me again!” he says. “So I was gentle, and kept checking in with her to make sure everything was OK. Later, she told me she was so glad I did that.”
The Act
Let’s get one thing straight right off the bat: First time out, the big O is mainly the domain of the guys. No, it’s not fair, but that’s just the way it is. If you’re a female and you’re with someone who is very experienced, there’s a chance you might be sent into waves of orgasmic ecstasy, but don’t count on it. “I don’t know of anyone who [had an orgasm] the first time,” says Lindsay. Sharon agrees: “It was at least a year before I came while having sex.”
For guys, by most accounts, the first time is a quickie. Most guys I talked to estimated their first time lasted about 1-3 minutes. At best. “Put it this way: I could have beat Maurice Green,” says Dave Wayland of Princeton University. So coming quickly is nothing to be embarrassed about. If you’re with a more experienced girl, then “they know what to expect from you” says Frank. If you’re with another virgin, you really don’t have to worry. Hannah Kischler, a junior at Smith College, says her first time was “mercifully quick,” since the first time for her “was fun, but it wasn’t generally enjoyable from a physical point of view.”
Experimenting with different positions may not be the best thing your first time around — unless, of course you’re with someone who has more experience than you and who is comfortable taking you through the steps. Most men and women, however, find that the missionary position works just fine for that first test run.
Many novices worry about rhythm. Don’t. Rhythm is something that comes with practice, and from getting to know how your partner moves. “I definitely didn’t know what I was doing,” recalls Barry Glover, a senior at Drew University. “I didn’t really get the motions going. I never practiced on an apple pie or anything.” His recommendation? Slap on some tunes. Sexy tunes, that is. “It’s about slow, constant, steady rhythmical pressure. If you lack rhythm, like I did, try putting on music. It’s like dancing. Just move to the beat.”
Lindsay remembers the one thing that kept going through her mind. ‘I didn’t know what to do with my knees!” she laughs. It may seem trivial, but she, like many other men and women, remembers worrying about simple little things like their limbs. The best advice on this front — and overall — came from Jean Kirkpatrick, a recent graduate of Kenyon College. “There’s nothing you can do wrong. Okay, so you want to make sure you don’t hurt your partner. But outside of that, there’s absolutely nothing really right or really wrong you can do.”
Getting Out
Hey, you’ve done the deed. Congratulations. But don’t screw up now. Guys, when you pull out, grab the condom, hold on, and pull out slowly. Spillage is bad. You put that thing on for a reason, make sure you use it correctly. Don’t wait a long time to pull out, either. Instantaneous removal isn’t essential, but shrinkage can cause spillage, so watch out.
Aftermath
There are a few things you should know about after-sex. One is cleanup. Condoms are pretty neat and tidy, but have some Kleenex (or at least an old T-shirt) handy just in case.
Another is the smell. You may have heard people talk about the smell of sex, but you probably don’t know what it is till you’ve done it. Barry loved it then, and loves it now. He first smelled it after having sex for the first time at age 16. “Mmmm. I didn’t shower for two days!” he reminisces. Now, while we don’t necessarily recommend this particular course of action, a little reveling in the scent isn’t a bad thing.
Finally, while guys won’t be left with many physical reminders after their first time, women might notice a little bleeding. No big deal — it should hardly be enough to qualify as spotting, and should go away quickly. “I noticed a little blood in the shower afterward, but it was gone by the next morning,” says Gretchen. Women might also be a little sore or tender the day after, but that feeling should also go away soon.
So good luck, and remember: No one really knows what to do the first time around. But folks have been successfully bonking for millions of years. They all figured it out. And you will too. So relax, take it slow, and don’t worry about any sexual snafus. Just do what seems natural and comfortable. “There won’t be any swinging from the chandeliers at first,” says Sharon. “That’ll happen in time. You have to figure out what works with the person you’re with. And that’s true when you’re with any new person for the first time — it doesn’t matter if it’s your first lover, or your tenth.”
So, the rundown… the spark notes version to having sex for the first time and tips to make it even better
Talk it up. Not with your friends — although they might be able to give you some good advice. Talk to you partner before the big night. Talk about your experience, your concerns, your expectations. If you can talk about it before sex, it’ll be easier to talk about it during and after, too. And make sure to ask about your partner’s sexual history. Consider getting tested together to make sure you’re both clean.
Rubbers, gloves, latex, protection Call ‘em what you will. Have condoms on hand. (Oh — in case you weren’t paying attention — use condoms.)
Size might matter. We’ve all heard theories on whether or not penis size matters. We don’t have any answers to the age-old question here, but we can tell you that penis size can make a difference if it’s your first time. If a guy is particularly large, entry and sex can be a bit more tedious for everyone involved. Just make sure you take it slow.
Live and learn. Having some “all but” (as in “all but sex”) experience helps. If you’ve previously been initiated into the joys of making out, feeling up, and giving and receiving oral sex, then sex itself is a whole lot less intimidating. You’re already comfortable with squirts, spurts, and other bodily functions.
Lube job. If you’re having trouble getting in, or if you’re experiencing pain after penetration, you may want to have some KY jelly or other non-oil-based lubricant on hand. If you don’t feel comfortable with lubricant, use a natural substitute — saliva can work wonders. Let there be light? Lights on or off, it’s entirely up to you. Sex is sex, light or no light. But it may help to know that many first timers recommend darkness. You’ll both probably be less self-conscious that way.
No crowded house. Make sure your door has a lock. Use it. The last thing you need is your roomie or anyone else detracting from your first bout in bed.
*All names have been changed to protect the no-longer innocent.
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ok hello my name is steven i am 13 and me and girl friend have been going out for a long time and we decided to have sex and by the sounds of it im small im 5,5 inchs and im wondering so if i use a condom whats thes % she will get pregant ?
what the FUCK!!!!!!!!!!! you’re fuckin 13!!
well im 13 and ive done it loads of times and i didnt get prgenant so i would go for it x
I’m not saying this to sound mean, but just because you’ve had sex several times and have never gotten pregnant doesn’t mean some other girl won’t either. Condoms do prevent STDs and pregnancies but they aren’t 100%. You may have been lucky but that doesn’t mean Steven will.
the reason for the pregnancy not happening is probly you or your boyfriend being sterile
Sexybitch is up for anything xx, I know someone who ran across a busy road heaps of times without looking and they weren’t hit by a car once. I think we should all do the same…
Can you see how flawed your logic is? You mightn’t have got pregnant yet, but how do you know you won’t get pregnant next time you have sex?
Steven, I can’t say what the chances of your girlfriend getting pregnant will be, but I can tell you this. Condoms are only 98% effective at the absolute most. So statistically, if you have sex 50 times, it’ll be like you’re not using one at all for one of those times. And you can easily get a girl pregnant if you don’t use one. It’s a big risk.
Want to be fully sure that you won’t get your girlfriend pregnant? Don’t have sex. Wait until you know you can handle the consequences of having a baby.
Steven, You are a fucking idiot. Your 13. Do you even know what tea bagging is? Do you know what rimjob means? My thoughts are if you dont know the sexual terms you shouldnt have sex. If your thirtteen you shouldnt have sex. Like i said your a fucking idiot. You and your gf shouldnt be having sex AT ALL. If she were to get pregnant your life would be over maybe sooner if her dad finds out. And shes a whore if she sleeps with you at this age. She must not have parents and im guessing you dont either? Your a twat so go fuck yourself if you wanna get laid. Thats what masturbating is for anyway….
dude, Dylan, Just because You’re still a virgin, don’t take it out on the kid. Although I think he should wait, You’re a fucking dick.
dude,Brent you must not be getting laid either because you wanna talk shit to me for feeling the same way you do. The kids an idiot and you must be too. Im not a virgin so go get your “im dating my hand t-shirt” and go somewhere else. I admit i might have been harsh but its idiotic and honestly if you have a 13 year old gf willing to have sex with you shes a little slut no? 13 year olds having sex is a no no. I give my opinions straight forward , i do not sugar coat anything. Just cause you have a problem with that doesn’t mean im a dick. Get off this website kid.
Alright, Dylan, Brent, both of you calm down and behave yourselves. We’re here to give advice and help others and doing so involves giving personal views and everyone’s views are different. Try and act a little more mature and respect other people’s points.
Geez guys, loose the attitude. It doesn’t help anyone. No one will ever take you seriously if that’s how you talk. Dylan, I have no problems with you giving your opinion. I in fact agree with it. There’s no need for the rudeness though. You can easily state your opinion without it.
And no, a 13 year old girl having sex does not necessarily make her a slut. It makes her naive. Someone who knows and understands what they’re doing but continues to sleep with lots of guys; they’re a slut.
I do agree though that 13 is far too young to be having sex. Steven, you have your entire life to have sex. Why rush into it? There is no harm in waiting until you’re older. Have fun being a 13 year old. Worry about sex later in your life.
i had my first sex when i was 18 but i didn’t bleed. is that normal?
tim from ur nickname im going to assume ur a dude, dudes dont bleed from sex, if u do then something went horribly wrong.
if ur somehow a girl however i wouldnt worry about it
HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
what?
That just goes to show you that brent is probably a 13 year old fag that would rather do stupid stuff then actually talk about the subject at hand.
hi dear, i was just wondering if you can please explain me the reason, why some girls don’t bleed, the first time they have sex. as i got married when i was 18 yrs old and i didn’t bleed during sex and my husband left me cuz my in-laws told him ……if girls don’t bleed during first night,its cuz they had sex before ……but trust me ……he was my first love….
Well, I was thinking about this the other night. Not your situation, but the bleeding thing all together. And I think girls bleed at different ranges because of when their last menstraul cycle was. When you think about it, if you’ve just come off your period, there’s not a lot of blood in there. Midway from ending to beginning you may bleed slightly and if you’re only a day or so away from your regular bleeding day you will have more.
But then you also have to take into account that the hymen is ripping (sorry if this if gross for some of you, but it’s the truth) and so when tissue rips from tissue there is bound of be blood. This varies from person to person. You’re lucky you didn’t bleed. Tell your parents to call a doctor to find this stuff out. They’re wrong and your husband shouldn’t have left you just because two people said something like that.
he is a stupid twat and by the ounds of it you could do better
What a horrible husband and parents-in-law! I can’t believe someone would care about sex so much that they’d leave their wife who they claim to love. I know it sucks, but you’re better off without such a horrible person in your life.
As for bleeding when having sex for the first time, some girls do bleed, others don’t. Don’t worry about it at all. You’re normal. And surely it’s a good thing that you didn’t bleed!!
So not only are your husband and parents in law horrible people, they were also very very wrong about the bleeding thing.
Also, what sort of weirdo tells his parents that sort of thing about his wife??
thank you
me and my boyfriend did it last night without a condom cuz the shop was shut. wot are the chances im pregenant help
The chances are very high and you may want to get a test done if you’re not sure.
i think your really silly and should have waited till you got some x
Very bad idea. Always use a condom
Why do people brag about their penis size on educational forums like this o.O just wondering why people are that damn immature. and yes im only 14 y/o so wtf people get a life o.o
i no tell me bout it im 13 by the way x
hey umh i am 14 almost 15 and dont know if you will get pregenat or not i really dont
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I apologize but this isn’t the kind of forum for that. If you read through the previous pages of comments you’ll see that a lot of people come here for outsider help. Please don’t post phone numbers or e-mail addresses on this site. It is immature and dangerous.
hello i would like a gf because i am single pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Join a dating website.
Hey Daniel’s back!
You want some advice? Don’t beg for someone to be your girlfriend. Girls like guys who are confident. Not guys who are whiney and pathetic.
Omg, YES!! Confident guys are exactly what girls are looking for. Every girl I’ve ever known thinks confidence is what first gets them into a relationship.
im 14 me and my boyfriend have been going out since year 7 and we are now in year 9 we both think were ready to have sex but i need some advice what do you guys think x
It is only my opinion but you both still seem so young. You’ve been together for two years or so but that doesn’t mean you’re at that age when sex is a normal thing. I can only say to wait a little longer and get into junior or senior year of high school before you make a real comittment like that.
thanks you have been a great help xxxxxx
Yes, just wait. You’ll know when the time comes
m a vergin 2.. i want to have sex but m a little scared…and im single… dont realy belive in boy friends and girl friends i think its lame … i find that u should just have fun being i a relatoinship sucks u cant be free and u cant have fun oh yes b.t .w im 12 and i know u think im to young
m a virgin 2 :’(
need to know haw to get a guy to have sex with me! i got close to it but…
HELP ME!!!
I LOVE HAVING
Ok, I am only 14, and you guys who think you want to have sex at like.. 12-13 like come on !!!! You may be young but you know what! You could easly still get aids- hiv!! And crap like come on wait a few more years I’m still young too but then I stoped and thinked oh this might be bad ya condoms are good but!!!!!!there’s still a chance of getting pregant or other crap! So you all need to stop and think and stop putting you freaken cell phone numbers on here like come on you might get some crepper who likes to have sex with young people like EW so really!! Stop!!!
i had sex with a guy that has had THE oporation. it was my first time having sex and im a little late, i dont know why i am tho :/ any help?
you might want to get checked cause’ the operation, can spontaniusley reverse itself, thats what happend to me dad and now i have a brother
im 14 and i really wanna have sex with mi bf bt im afraid ..i kinda dont noe wat to do …HELP ME SUM1 …..PLEZZZ
Read the advice I gave to =]Keanna below. It completly applies to you as well.
Okay I’m 13. I want to have sex but lik… I’m not scared but I am.. I mean lik isn’t it embarassing to have a male c u naked? Lik I dnt kno wat I’m doing…at all. Lik I dnt hav a boyfriend but I go to alot of “party” so I hav the chances… I just dnt kno wat to do…plz help
Don’t have sex. The only reason you want to is because of your hormones. From everything you’re saying it sounds like you’re not ready for sex at all. Your body and hormones are screaming yes, but your brain is saying no. Ignore your hormones and listen to your brain.
If you have sex, you will regret it. I can tell from what you’ve written.
someone help me PLEZZZZ
hi, im 17, and me and my girlfriend have been datin for 4 years, and we want to have sex… but every time we’ve tried so far, i always chicken out cause im nervous…. can someone help me??
Dude, I’m 24. Trust me, it’s perfectly normal to be nervous. I lost my virginity at 17. I was very nervous. But i would wait if I were you. Wait until you know you’re ready
. If your nervous just try n’ ease into it. If it takes a few hours so be it. Start kissing ,playing ,oral , and then by that time you both should be excited that you’ll just want to go ahead and have sex. Ease into it at first but then go for it. You can make her and yourself by checking in with her asking her if she feels comfortable or if you need to go slower. The first time requires a little communication. You’ll be just fine.
i am 14, and me and my boyfriend tried having sex last night.. right when it went in.. he popped my cherry. so we stopped/ i was really embarrassed, but my boyfriend and i are so close, he didnt care and made sure i was okay. i REALLY want to have sex with him, but i dont want this to happen agian..
Sweetie, once your “cherry has been popped” that’s it. It doesn’t happen a second time. As long as you wait a few days and take it slow, there shouldn’t be anymore bleeding. And if there is, its minimal and barely noticable. Everything should be fine and it sounds as if you have an amazing boyfriend to help you through this. =3
Me and my boyfriend have been dating and I think I’m ready mentally, but I’m really self conscious about my body, (especially down there) so I don’t know what to do.
Oh, and if you were wondering, I’m a girl.
Any help?
Sweetie, you should never feel self conscious about your own body. And I know that’s a lot easier said than done. But if you’ve been dating this guy for so long he must think you’re beautiful and moving on to the next stage of your relationship shouldn’t change his mind. And for “down there” just remain well groomed and clean and everything should be fine. =3
From a guys perspective I think AngelicEmerald is totally right.
Thanks this site was a big help, i feel less stressed about having sex for the first time.
i’m 15 and me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while now and like we want to have sex and stuff but i’m just worried about getting pregnant. like we’ve done stuff with each other and have gotten close to having sex but we still haven’t had sex yet. what should i do?
the easy fix is to make full usage of sex alternatives, then if you absolutly cant wait to have sex use a condom, however a condom is not failproof and you could still get pregnant so try not to have sex
helllo ppl…x HELP!!! me and my bf really whant to have sex….but im scared …. i really want to as i love him and i whant him 2 be my fist i amm ready … but with all boys in skl slagin of other girls about there bodys makes my nervous …. what sall i doo ?
first i would try using spell check because i almost didnt understand you.
second your feeling nervous about your body because your head is screaming at you that your not ready to have sex, regardless of what your hormones are telling you otherwise. my advice is get comfortable with eachother and then slowly (over several dates and such) get used to eachothers bodies, it will definately help, then when youve taken everything off and you still feel nervous dont do anything, if you dont feel nervous, truely love your boyfriend, and have a condom, by all means go for it
Help!!! The is a eleven yr old girl that humps me 24/7!!is this a goodenough reason to ask for help. if you have any help please post a message with advice that will make stop.if this helps I am 12 yr old
Boy and she is eleven!
Help meeeeee!!!! B b
lol just when i thought that 13 was the youngest ppl we wer going to get, 12 seriously, coupled with that the prob is with an eleven year old? jeez thats funny
anyway dude i cant help you if you haven’t told me what you’ve done to get her to stop. tell me that and ill try and think of something.
btw this is @ Cristian incase the reply thing doesn’t work again
Just push her off and tell her to stop.
ok, i take a break for awhile to fix up some school shit and i find a good honest advice fourum turned into a trolling party
seriously ppl, get a fucking grip. btw, im going to request the mods watch this thing closer, so watch what you post
if anyone has a problem with what i just said go fuck yourself
Totally agree.
I lost my virginity when i was 16, my GF was 14.
It was so cool, i were gentle
We were dating for like 6 months before we decided to do this
Now i’m 17 and we still love eachother, it brought my GF so close to me.
Btw, we done this in the “bushes” on a sunny day, becouse her parent dont wanted us,
to do this yet. And they still dont know. :]
I think this age is fine to “lose it” not too early, not too late :]
good luck for anyone who willing to do it, dont afraid, the time will come.
Dont plan anything at all, it will happen when it supposed to.
We were used a condom, cause i brought one with myself, everytime we met. *giggles*
ps.: Sorry for my messy english.
So my boyfriend just finally had sex this weekend. But the weekend before we tried it too. He couldn’t get it in with him on top so i went on top just so we could get it in and pop. I went down and it hurt so bad I nearly cried and made him stop. Last weekend on Friday we tried to just pop it again so when we finally had sex I could enjoy it and not be in pain the whole time. It popped, and hurt. Now Sunday we finally had sex. It still hurt putting it in, and the WHOLE TIME. We had sex for an hour and it honestly just didn’t feel as good as anything else we did. I knew it felt good for him so I just said it did because I wasn’t gonna ruin it. We had to leave before either of us could finish. But it’s Tuesday and my vagina FINALLY no longer hurts. Like every girl I hope, I know what my vagina looks like. I was talking to my friend and described it as feeling like my vagina got rearranged. She said I should probably look at it and Tuesday now that it doesn’t hurt anymore. It looks like they are two or three strings whatever, your hymen, blah blah blah, one of them is still unpopped, and the popped ones are red like bloody and look so weird ! This is scaring the crap out of me ! It doesn’t hurt, maybe it just needs to heal, but idk who to talk to about this. My discharge has been slighting darker, I’m figuring it’s bleeding a little. But it also smells like my boyfriends penis ? Is that not the strangest thing ?
Alright, first off, you should go and see a gynocologist for this type of propblem because none of us here are doctors . . . that I know of. Anway, any discoloration of discharge can be considered prone to bleeding or an infection. I’ve never heard anything about “strings” being up there so a doctor should really be seen. Even though there isn’t any residual pain, you might still have a problem that is not being noticed. Try not to have sex again until you can have it checked out.
well im a virgin…my boyfriend aint…we been going out for a long time…..he’s wanting to bang with me and i realy want to bang also but im not sure whats going to happen or the consequences!!! ya digg!!! i need advice!!! i dont want to wait any longer!!
im 12 years old me nd boyfriend whose 13 had sex on day after school and the next day i didnt want to talk to him because it was awkard wha should i do
Im 14 and my dick is maybe 7 1/2 in on hard but really smaller on soft…… This girl i’ve been talkin to wants to have sex with me and she is experienced…. This is my first time and i dont know if im big enough for her?? And what position is the best??
Sorry, all….this may be a little scattered,but bare with me
Well, I’ll be 21 in less than a month and have never had sex. I’m pretty enough(at least I’ve been told)But, when a guy compliments me(even just to say I have a nice smile or something)I doubt them. Which would explain why I’m a virgin.ALthough I had not one friend until grade 9(I’m not loking for sympathy,but maybe thats why my esteem sucks sometimes.) Also, since most guys I know(not many)are in their teens. They’re either too young legally for me, so just very immature. Is it normal for me to want to date(or eventually have sex)with a guy who is in his late 20’s?
Also, should I be embarrassed that I haven’t had it yet?
I did almost come close.A guy almost convinced me to have sex with him, and once he started saying that he’ll own “this” and “that”,I was like no!
Although, I’ve never had sex, when I do, somehow I don’t think I’ll have to worry about being naked around my partner and being embarrased….But, whenever I’ve see a penis(obviously porn)I get embarrassed and sometimes a little disgusted…in otherwards, on my first time….would it be normal if I can’t look at it????? Well, I’m gonna get back to Mars
lol jk.
Don’t worry about anything Erica. You seem like a really nice girl who any guy would be lucky to be with. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You sound very normal to me. It’s entirely normal to want to be with someone in their late 20s at your age. Girls mentally mature earlier than boys, which is why so many girls find things hard with boys around your age and younger. Guys your own age will catch up soon though. You never know, you might find a nice, mature guy your own age anyway.
Never be embarrassed for being a virgin. It’s something to be proud of. My girlfriend and I are virgins, and we’re 25. We’re choosing to be because we want to wait until we’re married. We’re not embarrassed at all, and neither should you be. I know it seems like everybody’s having sex but you, but there would be quite a few virgins your age around. The only reason you don’t hear about them is because they don’t talk about it.
Good for you deciding not to have sex with that guy. He sounded like a creep. Good call!
I agree, penises are embarrassing and disgusting. When you find a guy who you really love, and who really loves you back though, you won’t think that about his. You don’t need to worry about that if you find the right guy.
Don’t worry about a thing, you’re very normal. I hope you find an amazing guy to love and be loved by.
help i wanna ask something
me and my boyfriend decide to have sex, but i don’t know why i feel really uncomfortable about using condoms. Is there anyway that we can have sex without it, like when he’s about to cum, he’ll take it outside ?
Only if you don’t mind getting pregnant. Even with condoms though, the risk of getting pregnant is high enough to cause concern. Don’t want to worry about getting pregnant? Then don’t have sex. It really is as simple as that. Seriously consider it. Why not wait until you’re at a time in your life where if you did get pregnant, you could deal with it.
I just had sex for the first time. I’m a girl by the way.
And it hurt sooooo bad! He barely started putting it in and my body just cringed in pain.
We tried again a few days later and the same thing happened.
Could it be I just wasn’t wet enough?
Ok, so I’m 14. Almost 15. I had sex with a 17 year old and the first time, yea it did hurt, but I went through with it because I knew that if my cherry didn’t pop that it would hurt the next time. Well, the second time I had sex it didn’t hurt much really. And yes this was with the same person, but we weren’t and aren’t dating. Ok so like 2 months later. I had sex with another guy(he is 14), and it felt good..this was like 2 days ago. No we aren’t dating, but he did consider it. Anyways. It did feel good, so I’m hoping the next time it feels amazing
yes, we used condoms…condoms all the way. They come in handy.
Oh, and he pulled out, took the condom of, I sucked him and he cummed in my mouth..I swallowed it and…liked it. ^_^ but yea. Before we had sex, i gave him a bj and swallowed that time too. So basically I swallowed his cum twice..
Hey you sound like a female…. and i have a very important question to ask you…. but first off are you still a virgin? i need advice from experienced women
any help anybody
Me too Angie Everhart, Me Too! i googled “My girlfriend thinks I act like her dad and wont have sex with me”
Oh yea Monster Dong? Mine’s 14!!
Help please….
I’m virgin as she is
me? nope im a dude
No one seemed to be responding to you, but just ask your question. I’m sure someone will answer if you just go ahead and ask it straight out.
yes im virgin , and i had done sex first time , ….. i was over that time in 2 mintue….. i need some more time in during sex….. plz suggest me some help
this was supposed to be a reply to “is it love”s question
This is for IsItLove
A girl can hold on to a guys butt-cheeks and control the force and depth with which he penetrates, therefore giving a certain amount of control over time taken until orgasm.
Alternatively, try pulling out and returning to some fore-play, or change position, before returning to penatration, this should give the guy some more time.
that was directed at saurabh by the way, sorry.