Oral Sex Tips for Men, make sure you eat(out) right
Oral sex can be just fabulous. It’s something that should be celebrated and enjoyed fully. So if you’re going to go down on a woman, don’t just do it — do it right.
You can’t wave your tongue in the direction of a woman’s private parts and expect her to convulse in a mind-blowing orgasm then fall to her knees thanking you. You don’t need to be a box gourmet to chow it delightfully — while there is skill involved, being tuned into a woman’s mood and sensations is more important than all the strength your tongue can muster.
Ease in
First things first: don’t just yank down her cute little panties and have at it. “Don’t rush it,” says Brooke Matteo*, a junior at Dickinson College. “It’s a very sensitive area.” In other words, she says, give the rest of the body some attention and make a “slow prelude” to the big eat-vent.
When you finally get down there, don’t hurry. “Start out slowly and build up the speed as you go,” advises Melissa Wayner, a recent UNC-Wilmington grad who currently works as an animal trainer in Charlotte, NC.
Make contact
Oral sex is pretty intimate, but it becomes even more intimate when there’s plenty of physical connection between you. Don’t just lie and lick; stroke her thighs or hold her around her legs, Melissa says.
Also, don’t hide in her silky depths. Look at her. Make eye contact, at least occasionally, to see how she’s doing and so she can see how you’re doing.
Pay attention
Each woman has her own personal preferences when it comes to oral pleasure. Be aware of her reactions and body language as you try different things. While Alana Johnson, a senior at Randolph-Macon College, thoroughly enjoys “lapping and insertion of the tongue” into her vagina, Melissa prefers gentle clit flicking. Melissa also likes “dual action” — that is, fingers and tongue working together.
Play around, and see what gets a rise out of her. But always, if you’re trying a new strategy, “be gentle at first,” Melissa warns. If she doesn’t seem to like what you’re trying, don’t go there anymore.
Enjoy yourself
Above all else, though, both parties need to be into it. Don’t act like you’re doing her a big favor or you’re disgusted by the act. If that’s how you feel, you don’t deserve to be close to female genitalia. It’s an amazing part of the body, so appreciate it for all it does — and what it can do for you.
Make sure, too, that the recipient of your tongue-lovin’ is enjoying herself. She needs to be in the mood for it. Unlike guys, women don’t always have oral sex first on their agenda — don’t force a descent if she doesn’t want you down there.
“Make sure she’s comfortable,” Lisa Johnson (Brooke’s older sister and a recent graduate of Randolph-Macon) says. Alana agrees. “Let the woman lie on her back and relax. Service her; don’t make her sit up or hold herself in some uncomfortable position,” she says.
The more comfortable you both get, the more likely you are to get off — and get off good.
Women should know
If you’re a female on the receiving end of oral sex, well, lucky you. While you should sit back, relax, and enjoy it, you should keep in mind that you’re still involved in the situation. Oral sex is an intimate sexual act, so tune in.
“Scream and pull my hair. That’s why I’m doing it,” says John Viera, a senior at Boston College. If you’re not a screamer, don’t worry. The point is, let them know you’re enjoying it. And if you’re not enjoying it, let them know why.
And pay attention to personal hygiene. “Trim, please,” Viera says. Oral sex givers have different preferences, but many like to find that they won’t come away with a mouthful of overgrown pubes. Even more important, though, is cleanliness. It can get a little rank down there if you haven’t showered in a few days.
No need to scour the surface, just “wash well, wash often,” advises Mike Ortega, a recent graduate of the Berklee College of Music. Viera agrees. “A gentle daily scrub, with soap, works for me. I like a pleasant, natural taste and scent.”
AskStudent rundown
Performing oral sex on a woman isn’t generally considered among the riskiest of sexual behaviors, but anytime fluids are exchanged you need to be careful. According to Planned Parenthod, “Oral sex without barrier protection and sharing sex toys are potential methods of transmitting infection.”Try using a dental dams or cut-open latex condoms as a barrier to reduce your risk of infection during oral sex.*All names have been changed.*All names have been changed.*All names have been changed.
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Very good tips. Will definately try them.
Americans finally realize the try-before-you-buy works just as well with sex as it does with commodities. Rather than marrying and then shacking up with hot sex coming after the nuptuals, Americans are increasingly putting out before putting on the wedding rings.Women are just as likely as men to get it on before matrimony.
I think this is just the sign of the times. I mean, we like to test things, try them out, before making a purchase. Why should sex and marriage be any different? The stigma associated with pre-marital sex is dead. Long live free love!
i love giving my gal oral sex. shes a screamer, and at first, that scared me. but now i know that means im doin somthin right.
i trieed some of the tips, and me and sherry are happy we had so much sexual expierience b4 marraige. we were not as scared on our honeymoon.
i’m gay so this info sucks and doesn’t help me! i need help with my man…
OMG! thank you soo much! i was soo scared with my lesbian partner for the first time, she was a screamer so i didnt think i was doing it right =x .. after reading all this, i think im gonna go try some new tricks ;]
byee guyss thanksss !!!
iam looking forward for more comments
wow thank you author! now i am really excited to try it with my girl.
guys (or girls) dont forget to make an o-shape with your mouth and suck gently on a girls clit. trust me it feels amazing
Chuck Norris doesn’t need to go down on his girlfriends, Chuck Norris looks at girls and they have multiple orgasms.
ok this is all good but what about if the girl doesnt even want oral? i know she wont go down on a guy and that sux but i still dont mind going down on her. but it seems like she feels obligated to go down on me if i go down on her but i really dont think that.
im gay and work at mountain mikes in oroville, and i have seen so many people go in the back (including the owner, steve hemmilspa)and some scream and others dont. i showed this to a guy that went back their and didnt make her scream, and now all you here is screaming there. im sure he says thanks.
This omitted some important things.
Gently sucking on the clit is important. I said GENTLY. Sucking too hard does not feel good in any way shape or form.
I’ve never been one that was turned on my a guy aggressively spreading my “lips” apart and just licking. Now that’s just me, some girls may like it.
It’s good to use the entire width of your tongue, run it from the opening of the vagina, all the way to the clit and there begin to suck gently. At least that’s what I like.
By all means, use your hands. Rub her thighs, her belly and run your hands all the way up to stimulate her breasts and nipples.
This won’t win you any points in biology class, but between the sheets her pussy begins somewhere around mid-thigh. Don’t forget that her anus is just a bundle of nerves, too (gentle, Homer, gentle!) … and also her waist and the crease of her groin. Get it all going and you’ll make a friend for life. Or at least the rest of the night.
Tip # 2: Once she cums, she will likely be extremely sensitive down there (like after a bj for us guys) LEAVE IT ALONE for a couple minutes unless you are CERTAIN she is looking for more heavy action. Hug her, kiss her breasts or stomach gently … whatever (playing harmonica does not come under ‘whatever’), keep the motor running, but not racing and she may just show you what an excruciatingly grateful woman she can be.
Tip #3: Every woman is different enough that you will want to pay very close attention to all the cues you can get until you learn what works for her and what does not. Then, sometimes, ignore those cues just to mix things up a bit for her. The orgasm is better if it’s not completely predictable.
Tip #4: a rhythm works here, too. And I’ve found that many women want you to make sucking or other noises while you are munching away. Burping, however, is NOT funny until AFTER she cums.
Tip #5: Forget hygiene. Don’t hose her down right after an orgasm. No one ever died of pussy fumes. If it’s bad enough, slowly and carefully wipe her down with a warm washcloth … make it part of the foreplay. Go easy on the soap … that stuff is nasty on a muffin. Some women are just ‘fragrant’ down there even if they run into the bedroom immediately after a shower. Shut up and deal with it … you are eating her pussy and she, presumably, is at least returning the favor.
Tip #6: Above all else, remember that you are in the rack with a naked human being who is vulnerable to all sorts of badness from you, intended or otherwise, real or otherwise. Even if she wants you to be rough with her, don’t lost track of the fact that she is still a human (albeit a fairly freaky one). And if she wants you to be rough enough that you are honestly concerned for her safety if you comply with her requests, don’t. You have a right to act with some dignity, too … even naked with a boner.
Most soaps aren’t designed for going on a woman’s snatch. You can give her an UTI or something of that nature by using the wrong soap because you’d be killing off the *good* bacteria that’s supposed to be there (and that keeps her healthy and clean).
Just water ought to be fine enough (unless she has an STD or an STI).
write the alphabet with your tongue in her and around her clit ifound it really rewarding and while you there try to fing her G spot with your finger, beleive me you haven t seen gratitude till your girl get a G spot orgasm lol
hey billindetroit, has your mummy taught you to talk like that? to act all knowledgeable like you do that all the time? because i happen to know that your mom actually likes it rough, so i guess you just made up all that.
she even told me she is so worried about your loser sorry ass that she volunteered to introduce you to the female touch… and you failed badly… she came crying to me, you couldnt give her an orgasm with all your smooth technique, even though she loves you soooo much
that’s great and all, i’ll try all of this out and see what happens, but it’s kind of creepy that you included the FULL names, whereabouts, and professions/studies of the girls who were laying down the game, here. if there’s an asshole who doesn’t mind telling you what he’s going to do to your mom (see above), surely there’s someone willing to give them a call to say ‘oh you like it when i stick my tongue in your pussy. UNNNHHHHHHH’