Oral Sex tips for Women, Tips for giving a great head
Scientists call it fellatio. Guys who could give a damn about science call it a blowjob, a hummer, a pearl dive, etc. But no matter what you call it, having your partner go down on you is one of life’s greatest pleasures.
Sometimes, though, there are a few snags.
Unfortunately, Fellatio 101 isn’t standard classroom fare. It’s not even something the mother bird teaches its young. As a public service for anyone who has a few questions about the right techniques, here is a laundry list of tips on what guys look for — and require — in a good blowjob.
1.Don’t try so hard. Last year, my friend “Bridget” asked me why she couldn’t fellate her boyfriend to orgasm. My response? In a perfect world of Playboy and porno flicks, hummers lead to big, healthy orgasms. You know the scene: some tramp uses a pogo-like motion to deep throat her partner, only to be greeted by the requisite money-shot a mere seconds later.
Whatever.
I told Bridget to ignore the pot o’ pearls at the end of the rain-blow. Instead, I asked her to think of the hummer as the perfect pre-game warm-up. Think about it…What better way to prepare for the plunge than with a good wand-wash? Do runners break records without stretching? Do writers hand in first drafts? No. Like a good appetizer, I’ve found that a little sucky-sucky before the supper always makes for a pleasant dining experience.
2. Give yourself a hand. Guys spend years refining their “handy” skills before grabbing their first gobbler. And while the hand is neither moist nor equipped with a tongue, self-help is sometimes very satisfying. Therefore, I suggest women use their hands AND their mouths while orally pleasuring their partner. Ladies, the mouth alone cannot provide the surface penetration needed to excite the penis. Cover the tip with your mouth, making sure to cover your teeth with your lips. Swirl the tongue around the head and shaft. Then grasp your boy’s toy so that your forefinger is touching your lips. Using your mouth and your hands in unison, begin the up and down motion. Glance up and admire his smile.
3. Ignore the “spit versus swallow” argument. Some men SWEAR that sperm swallowing is really a test used to measure the amount of trust a woman has for them. I’ll probably lose my union membership for this, but it really doesn’t matter. If you can cause the eruption, you’re a goddess. Draw the pearly white lava and we will worship your volcanoes to no end.
4. Bring the noise. Since “blowing” never really comes into play with a blowjob (well, for females, really), you’ve probably wondered where the term “hummer” comes from. Well, just like you ladies enjoy some good vibrations, we guys like the 1,200 beats-per-minute action, too. As you’re fellating away, hum a few bars from Warrant’s “Cherry Pie.” Okay, maybe a better song. In any event, vocal vibrations translate well to the penis. If you’re a real sweetheart, though, you’ll hum his favorite tune.
5.Don’t get all Hollywood. You’ve seen Kevin Smith’s “Clerks,” right? You remember the scene where America was introduced to “snowballing,” right? Forget that scene.
Obviously, no two men are alike. Different folks take different strokes — not to mention tongue patterns. If you’re really looking to deliver perfect oral pleasure, ask him to guide you through. It’ll open up your lines of communication, turn the sexual experience into a learning one — and give you an excuse to make some suggestions yourself.
Caution Alert
Just because a woman can’t get pregnant by giving head doesn’t mean oral sex is totally safe sex. Though the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases or HIV is much lower with oral sex than with anal or vaginal sex, there still are risks. To make oral sex as safe as possible, there are a few steps you can take.According to the STD Education Unit of San Francisco Department of Public Health, for maximum protection you should use a non-lubricated latex condoms without spermicide. If you don’t like the taste, try flavored condoms. If you really don’t want to use a condom while performing oral sex on a man, the STD Education Unit suggests a few alternatives.Avoid taking cum in your mouth or leaving it in someone else’s mouth. If you get cum in your mouth, spit it out.Avoid sucking if you have bleeding gums, sores, abscessed teeth, or have just gone to the dentist. These could make it easier for HIV and STDs to enter the body. Wait until they heal.
Do not brush or floss your teeth right before or after having sex. For fresh breath, try chewing gum or rinsing with mouthwash.
Look closely for sores or blisters on the genitals, mouth or lips. If sores or blisters are visible, avoid oral sex. Remember, though, it’s not always possible to see sores or blisters.
Avoid deep throating. This may irritate the lining of the throat, making it easier for HIV and STDs to enter the body.
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this is great it gave me some really handy info
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We hope you and a lot more women out there take this tips and make their sex lives more enjoyable for their partners.
From the perspective of a circumcised male these tips are misdirection. For better results..
1) Pay Attention! The key to great sex for men and women is to be aware of ones partner and respond to their reactions. So long as your partner isn’t overly shy, or dead, they will let you know what works and what doesn’t through increased breathing, movement, and vocalization. (Watch out for bucking if ya got a gag reflex. Boys need to be trained to be considerate with that instinct.)
2) For the love of god forget the silly tongue-around-the-tip trick. This is one of those bits of bad information reprinted over and over again in Cosmo that no one bothered to get a guys opinion on. It’s great for foreplay. Once past that and on to serious stimulation, going back to the licking the tip like a lollipop brings us back to square one. Yes the tip is a bit more sensitive, but guys need stimulation over the entire thing to get off.
3) Again.. Guys need stimulation over the entire thing to get off. This is why deep throat feels so good for us. Can’t shake off that gag reflex? (It can be worked through with practice by the way.) That’s fine. Just throw some hand action into the mix. Work however far is comfortable with the mouth. Use your hand to work the rest. Is almost as good, and has the added benefit of some added protection from thrusting.
4) Swallow. If that’s just too gross to do without vomiting, let us finish then spit. Another of those keys to great sex is to be open to and enjoy every aspect of it. That includes juices involved. I once dated a girl who cut me a deal. So long as she could kiss me afterward, she wouldn’t raise a fuss wherever I finished. Seemed a fair trade to me.
5) Mind the balls! Cup them, play with them, stick out your tongue while you deep throat. The extra sensation makes a huge difference. =)
Yeah, mind the balls Bitch!
“Swallow. If that’s just too gross to do without vomiting, let us finish then spit.”
Stop watching so much porn. I don’t wanna swallow. I don’t wanna take anything of that load in my mouth so I ain’t gonna do that.
The action of swallowing is irrelevant. The guy doesn’t care if you swallow. What the guy cares about is you finishing so he can finish. Just like a girl doesn’t want a guy who is going down on her to stop and do nothing or run away the second she comes the guy doesn’t either. If you don’t swallow then it means you have (generally) pulled off and run to spit or just stopped working the guy. If you swallow, your mouth is not full of crap and you can keep working on the guy till he is finished.
Tip: If you don’t want to swallow then let the cum run out of your mouth or whatever while you are still giving the guy a blowjob. Even if you keep a cup or napkin next to you spit in/on it quickly (keep masturbating him with you hands while you do) and go back to the guy and keep working him. The blowjob shouldn’t stop the second he cums it should stop about 15-40secs after he does. It allows for the guy to FEEL like he has cum to a completion. That is an important feeling to a man. If a guy doesn’t get this completion feeling then the guy can be left feeling frustrated.
To: Hilzarie.
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Most men don’t really care if their gal swallow although, I’ll admit Deep Throat is great.
As for “just too gross to do without vomiting”… FYI, women don’t taste like a snow cone… Ever heard, “smells like fish?” Sweetheart, we’ve got our face buried in you fish bowl for 10 to 20 minutes while you only have to deal with a “gross taste” for 30 seconds.
None the less, it’s all about give and take. The sacrifices we make for the ones we care about. I won’t even get into the being married vs. no more oral sex thing… Good Luck and keep on strokin’, I’m off to watch some porno now
I don’t want to swallow either, i’m not going to lie. I don’t even like the taste of pre cum. I don’t mind going down on him as soon as he gets out of the shower b/c it smells fresh…..and fyi guys, try sucking on a 6 inch pulsating penis as it squirts hot sour juice down your throught WITHOUT gagging….it just sucks.
date a porn star if you’re into that….not a real, refined woman
wow. Butch, you’re a loser and WISH someone would give you a blow job. Keep jerking off to your mags.
I gotta say, the thought of sucking a guy off used to really gross me out besides I have the worst gag reflex of anyone. But if you’re in a great relationship its great. I’ve learned a lot by just going for it and actually have COME to love it as much as him. You can get over the gagging and the hand trick does work great. I love to send him a text about how I can’t wait to suck him off. I can get home hours later and he’s still hard.`I love it and I love watching him lovin it. Anyway, it’s about wanting to pleasure the other person and if you truly want to then there are no limitations. As far as swallowing the cum, don’t breathe through your nose if you don’t want to taste it and just let it go down. Enjoy your sex people before you get too old to enjoy it!! PS yes ladies do play with the balls as well. I was shocked to his reaction the first time I tried it. I usually go down chest, down side, lick inside thighs, lick on the balls and then on to the grand finale. Also, the more worked up you get him before the quicker it goes for the days when you aren’t really in the mood.
It’s good enough knowledge for better pleasure with safety.
by all means girls giving a blowjob can be enjoyable just enjoy it let him watch you tease him and yes play with his balls swallow open ya throat and enjoy keep practicing you will grow to love it and yes after he cums and ya swallow by all means keep ya mouth on it or ya lips let him feel thejoy
yes definitely lick the balls i love to give my man unlimited brains(head) he loves it when i give it to him wireless and deep throat it and hum a lil. and most of all when it goes down just lick that lil spot right under the balls that will really drive him crazy.
just so you all know i was once very much against giving head altogether -in fact i would gag thinking about it-but once i got into the relationship that im in now i have grown to like it as much as he does- funny how things work- i knew nothing about it until him though so its ok to be freaked out by it but once you see how much he enjoys it- it will feel like an accomplishment! for starters my guy likes it when i suck just on the end for a bit and rub his “head” against the roof of my mouth- as they said guys love when you actually swallow-it grossed me out to at one time- i accidently swallowed one time and he was so utterly suprised and happy that i didnt mind it at all- you dont have to do it alllll the time just susprise him every once in awhile- if you dont like that let him “go” on your chest men think this is sexy-
if you really want to go out on a limb my boyfriend likes to lay over me when i give him oral so its more like sex for him– i know but we have been together for a lonnnnng time!
best of luck!
oral sex is like presents at christmas….u give a little n recieve a little. i go down on my girl whenever she asks…even if she got her period. most guys would say thats nasty and yes it is really gross. but i dont mind for her she enjoys it very much. same with her going down on me. she doesnt like the taste of cum or swallowing but that doesnt stop her. if you want it you got to be willing to give it.
i really want to give my bf a bj but it seems like maybe my mouth might be too small. is it possible for your mouth to not be big enough to give someone a bj without your teeth getting in the way? and also, i read on this article thing that you should cover your mouth with your teeth. how exactly do u do that??
Elle, if you want, you are free to practice on my 10″ long 1″ diameter cock, I’m sure it’ll fit into your pretty mouth.
I NEED SOME HELP MY BOYFRIEND NEVER WANTS TO HAVE SEX WITH ME AND IT HURTS ME SO MUCH
i love giving head. swallowing makes it 10 times better for the guy. there is nothing to clean up, and they don’t have to worry about not cumming in your mouth. they can just relax and enjoy. if you don’t like the taste, you can use some flavored lube, or eat some toothpaste before you start.
giving head really turns me on too. i start to get wet while i’m sucking a guy off. the trick to giving a great blowjob is to not concentrate on one part of the cock. vary speed, switch hands, use alot of tongue and always play with his balls at some point.
all you hoes nasty,just kidding i love swallowing,and letting it run out my mouth and down my neck while giving him a fast blow job while cum is all over his dick and my face!! i like it messy!!!!!!!
I’m confused … of this HIV … this is going to be the first time for me and my girl.. if we play oral.. will we get this HIV originated .please help me out folks..
I love my gal suckin my cock before sex it turns me on so much an i love it wen she just pulls it out an starts sukin it an it really nice wen i come an she swallows it. but seroius lads if u have neva been sucked off trust me u need to be couse it is great fun an also turns ur gal on anyways catch u all l8ers jezzie
I always said I would neva suck a guys dick because its “nasty” but now that I’m in the relationship I’m in, I think oral sex plays a big roll in the sex life. My boyfriend likes it messy and loves when I “slobb” all over it. Using your hand really does make it better for him, especially when your just sucking the tip!!
when my girl sucks my dick it feels so damn good and it specially feels good when we in the 69and, the good thing bout getting head is that you can do it almost any where.
Mmm, I love giving head. I’ll start by kissing his mouth and working my way down. That look on his face when you are kissing the inside of his thighs makes me quivery. He likes me to start out slow. I press long wet kisses against the head, shaft, and scrotum. I pause just before taking him into my mouth and smile. I pull him into my mouth, my hands at his thighs, and suck very gently. Then, I’ll lick and tap my tongue against the head. I’ll take his member into my hands while I am sucking and twist them in different directions, not hard! I’ll continue bobbing up and down and making sure the head of his penis is either sliding against my tongue or roof of my mouth. I’ll let out a small soft hum and work that into a larger one. While still stimulating him with my hand, I’ll pull his scrotum into my mouth. Remember if he hasn’t shaved, you need to cover the area in spit. It hurts if you pull on his little hairs. Just pool some spit in your mouth and cover him. Not all men like this, but for the ones that do… Oh boy! Suck on him very slightly and pull at the same time. My current boyfriend loves t when I’ll tease him to the point that he is almost ready to cum and then cool him down and start over. Some guys hate this, so ask first. If you have heard men getting ready to cum before, you’ll know when he is at the brink. My current man makes this pretty easy; he is very vocal and will usually tell me what he wants. This is great and I suggest you get that kind of communication from him. When he is getting ready to cum, don’t take a long time, continue sucking on him, hard, and stimulating him with your hand. I personally don’t mind when he cums in my mouth, he tastes very sweet and a little salty. Continue pulling and licking for awhile after. He is even more sensitive right now. After you hear his moans and breathing quiet a little, look up at him and lick your lips slowly and say, “Mmmm, you taste so good! You make me so hot!” It works for me.
Listen boys and girls. I’ve been studying to be a sex therpaist since the eigth grade. Its all preference. Never let anyone make you do anything you don’t want to most importantly. However girls if u won’t give him oral sex don’t expect him to return the favor-or to stick around very long. I feel nothing about sex is embarassing or disguisting and is all perfectly natural. I think when people feel that way it reflects immaturity. You should try everything atleast three times. The first time you’re trying to figure things out. The second time you’re working out bugs. And the third time you can relax and be in complete bliss.
As for the swallowing thing, its an aquired taste.
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I was curious if anyone could give me tips on how to give oral/handjobs to a non-circumcised penis. My previous boyfriend was circumcised and I could make him cum in only a few minutes…I knew how to do anything and everything he liked. Now, the things that felt good for my ex do not feel as good to this new guy (non-circumcised). It is amazing the difference in sensitivity… he is so sensitive!! I’m having to learn new techniques all over again
I appreciate any tips you can give.
Is there a difference between going down on an uncircumcised guy vs. a circumcised guy?
I have always swallowed, for me it would actually be kinda gross to hold the cum in my mouth and then spit it out. If you can manage to deep throat which is usually just mind over matter and relaxing your throat, you really don’t have to taste the cum at all. My favourite thing to do when im sucking my boyfriend’s cock is to mix it up, never start the same way and keep him guessing. Of course there are certain techniques that I always use to get him off such as jerking him off with his head in my mouth and moving my mouth up and down with my tongue running slowly side to side along the base of his dick head. Another favourite is to jerk him off while I suck on his balls and hum or moan and then run my tongue from the bottom of his balls all the way up to the head of his penis (*making sure to pay special attention to where his balls meet the base of his penis and that sweet spot at the base of the head)<<you can do this slowly once or twice and quickly 3 or 4 times. Last but not least put that whole thing in your mouth and keeping your teeth covered. There are three golden rules for giving a mind blowing bj 1) NO TEETH, ANYWHERE, EVER! 2) use lots of spit or lube the more the better! 3) keep jerking him, keep him stimulated, a blowjob without any hands is not as good as one with them! I really do love everything about giving head, the look on his face, the thought that i’m making his cock rock hard and the satisfying moans… and thats the key, you have to love it or at least really love your man enough to learn to love it. Happy Humping!!
There may be some value in these instructions, but I would venture to say the absolute worse blowjob I ever got was magnificent.
hey rodney,
i know where you’re coming from….most guys love getting their cock sucked no matter what…especially in the car…i love blowing someone while he’s driving down the road!
I’m with Rodney!!!
hello guys and girls!!
I’m a gay male and am thinking about giving head for the first time.
any tips on how to ‘Supprise’ my man?
hey everyone!
i love giving my boyfriend blowjobs.but he always likes to be stubborn about EVERYTHING,and he tries not to cum just to see how long it will take him!does and one have any REALLY good advice on how i could overtake his will power and make him just even when he is trying not to!!!!!i just need some really good creative tips and techniques.if you have any advice please tell me!!!!
this did help me a little
but there was one thing that wasn’t mentioned
my guy like it when i give him a bj from his pov
because, you know how guys touch themselves, they are stroking from that angle, so it increases more pleasure for them
so instead of being able to look at him, he is the one who is going to be looking at the back of your head while you go up and down. try it, it makes him go crazy, seriously
good tips..
but i need more lol
im 14 and my boyfriend is 16
and experienced
and i want to give him the best bj ever
he keeps giving me tips
‘its steak and blowjob day on the 14th march’
garrr
i do l♥ve him
got any suggestions for my first time?
just suck baby… thats all. yeh and some tongue action never goes astray…. enthusiasm is the key!! ; )
having said that i think blokes have a duty to themselves and their partner that they have good hygeine eg. shower, drink abit of pineapple juice, even manicure pubic region etc It is also important for guys to make their cock appealing…. tease,, get your girl horny & in the mood and never expect her to swallow it!! sex is only fun when both people are enjoying it! : )
I Love giving my man head…and he loves it to lol
lay him on the bed so hes completely relaxed and then lick and kiss up his cock. give his balls a soft gentle grope at the same time, then move your tongue so up from his balls to his head. (do it so gently that its hardly touching his skin and it will get his nerves on red alert) put your hand around the bottom of his dick, get enough mouisture in your mouth first, the wetter the better! just like us girls
hehe and begin sliding up and down, start to humm and when you know he likes it, make it vibrate abit more 
i cant get enough of his reactions, i love being in control on his orgasm, and i love the vocal reaction, you know your doing a good job when someone downstairs tells him to shh
hehe
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thanks ;D
gawd im so nervous…
lol
you forgot to mention licking/sucking the balls. ive found that each guy has a certain ball thats more sensitive, and taking the entire nut in your mouth and gently sucking will invoke involuntary shakes in the guy youre blowing. for my guy its his left ball.
I have never given head or even a hand job. my guy has done it all so i feel like i have to impress him. should i skip straight to BJ or like hand job …….. idk do guys find it gross when the “cherry” pops. Im not sure what to do but i WANT to do something!!!!! help!!!!
Hey V , dont feel like you have to impress him jst because hes done it all. if he really loves you he wont mind waiting, but if hes pressuring you, then hes only after one thing n you should cut him loose!!
When the time comes to picking a Handjob or a blowjob, you cant have other people tell you which ones best. you’ll know when the time comes which one feels right for you.
I was lucky enough to not bleed during my first time i had sex, n havent bled since, ive spoken to alot of woman who’ve had the same. So dont get worried that it will happen, and if it does, dont worry about it!! if he knows your a V then this wouldnt be a surprise to him, and if he has a problem with it, just turn around and say,” this is something that happens to everyone, you cant blame me for something that i cant help happening” im sure he’ll understand if you put it like that.
Just make sure he’s gentle when you guys first have sex, n when you feel like theres no pain anymore, then tell him. n gradually get faster. But please, let him no if hes going to rough for you and it still hurts, dont put yourself in harm just because he wants to be pleased, he’ll like the fact that your being open n honest with him.
need any other advise, just write bk
here for you if ya need me. xoxoxoxoxox
heyyy
im 14
my bf’s 16
and i really wanna have sex with him
but i just cant work out whether im ready or not :/
ages of anyone elses first time?
charss
x
im kind of the same as secret uo there ^^ lol
Wait… Bout one of the commets earlier… Wat does pinneaple juice have to do with it? Ps just because some guys dont like teeth, it doesnt mean that all guys dnt lke teeth. My boyfriend flat out asked me to use a little more teeth afte i accidentaly did. Now that doesnt mean to bite, just graze his shaft a lil while bobbing up and down. Dont use too much teeth though
Leilani, pineapple juice makes cum sweeter, less bitter & salty and overall nicer tasting….this of course is what i’ve been told! :O
hey secret…how did it go?
Leilani, not only pinapple juice but most sweet fruits will make his cum less bitter, even sweeter. I too, used to not like to swallow, but once i found out about this, no prob. I’ve also heard that if he stays away from certain foods, like meats, it will make it less bitter. I’ve gotten past the taste now, so it doesnt bother me any more, and its made it that much more enjoyable. I love giving my bf head as much as he likes getting it.
I like giving guys blowjobs, but my boyfriend likes when I do it hard and fast! Any tips on going slow and making him cum alot faster without gagging myself? Send answers here…
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heyyyyy carter :]
erm from what i can remember it wasnt to bad LOL
it was at a house party and i was very drunkk
it was weird lolol
i started off like giving him a hand job then i sucked for a lil bit lol
i really wanna do it again..but i feel like i gotta be drunk to do anything..ease the nervess and its an excuse if you did anything really bad lol
what yous think?
xxx
Whoa!
Secret, if you feel like you’ve got to be drunk to do stuff with a guy just to ease the nerves or even use that as an excuse. then you clearly arent ready yet.
I thought being drunk the first time i did stuff with someone was the way to go aswell, cuz i felt like i wouldnt be able to get my confidence up enough. I was wrong. You will find someone that you really like n will be able to leave the alcohol behind n just focus on him, trust me. it really is much better when you can remember everything.
just dont do anything unless your comfortable with it first.
Im in an exellent relationship now. And we’ve never once done anything to each other drunk, cuz we know it will be sloppy, messy and embarressing.
just think before you act next time hunni.
xoxoxoxo
here if you need me xox
lololol i guessss.
i just think i wont be good enough n shizzzzz
when im with him n that i really wanna do stuff, but my nerves just kick in lol garrrrr.
like yday he fingered me but i felt nervous and didnt want to do anything backk..even though id done it before
the thing is i dont remember what exactly happened that nightt
thanks for your help n that :]
xxxx