The Parent Trap: Spending a summer at home with the parents can be enough to drive anyone nuts.
One of life’s most unsettling (but enlightening) periods is the first month home after your freshman year in college. The pure freedom of school — freedom to make big decisions, stay out all night and make big mistakes — can make returning home a big drag. Especially once you realize home is exactly how you left it.
They say you can’t go home again. It’s true: you’ve changed, and your perspective will never be the same even when you go back to a familiar place. That’s what causes problems with the family.
You’ll realize things have changed the first time you go out with friends. Your mom will ask, “Where are you going?” or your dad will say, “When will you be home?”
I still cringe when I remember the first time my mom asked me those questions after I started college. I was used to setting my own schedule and her innocent queries sounded unbelievably intrusive.
In the old days teenagers just left home and never came back. They either got married or got jobs. But when average young adults started going off to college, a “boomerang” effect was born. Students left their parental nests seeking independence, only to return at the school year’s end.
Your parents will see you returning to their nest for the summer and they’ll plan to protect you and nurture you just like they did for your first 18 years. They don’t mean to squash your newfound independence, they’re just doing what they know.
Help them out. Let them be the best parents they can be — and by making some easy concessions, you’ll get your way in the end.
Always tell them where you are going and when you will be home. (Yes, it sounds ridiculous, but there’s a strategy here.) Tell them you are going to shoot pool, or to see a movie, or something else that’s relatively mundane. The more information you can give them, the better they’ll feel.
Tour of Duty : Spending time with your significant other’s parents can be a real stressfest.
I’m heading out to the Midwest in a couple weeks to visit my girlfriend’s family. It’s the first time I’ve ever stayed with them. I’m nervous about it, so I turned to my older brother Jack for advice.
Jack is getting married in August, and he’s made the dreaded visit to his girlfriend’s family. I asked him how I can impress the family-in-law.
To: [email protected]
From: [email protected]
Subject: Advice on meeting prospective in-laws
1. Don’t eat other people’s food, even if they’re full.
2. Don’t hold hands with male relatives of your girlfriend in any manner which might be construed as “different” or “special.”
3. Don’t eat your own food with just a knife and a stabbing motion. Try to use the full range of utensils.
Apparently he was just suggesting I avoid the mistakes he made.
Knowing Jack’s inability to distinguish between being full and being sick in a Homeresque fashion, (Ooo .. my stomach doesn’t feel so good. Still some ribs left. Must keep eating) the first and third commandments of good etiquette did not surprise me. The second one required some explanation.
#1. “Do not start any funny story you’re telling her family with the words: ‘I was so wasted,’ ‘I was so drunk,’ or ‘I woke up in this Dumpster.’
#2. Do not show them your ability to hotwire a Buick with your eyes closed.
#3. Do not make jokes about that funny mole on your girlfriend’s butt.
#4. Use the words “Sir” and “Ma’am” as often as possible.
#5. Clear the table at least once.”
#6. Talk about how you survived meeting the ‘rents.
Up All Night: Now that you have a real job, why are you still pulling all-nighters? You’re on the night shift, baby.
Since a college student’s schedule often involves things like No-Doz and VH1’s Insomniac Music Theater, landing that first nine-to-five job has some appeal.
But what if after four years of blood, sweat and all-nighters, you find that the first real job you’re offered will keep you on a crazy schedule? Should you move back home and hold out for something better? Or is it possible to survive the real world with college-like hours?
The challenge can come in the form of an overnight position at a hospital or newsroom. It might also be a job that entails attending weekend events like business conferences or media junkets. Whatever shape it takes, when your first job requires you to trade in your pillow for coffee or your weekend wear for a coat and tie, you might feel like you’re back in college: working past sunrise, doing more than you’re getting credit for, and losing control of your personal time.
Take advice from a couple of recent grads who found that “normal” real-world jobs aren’t necessarily easy to find.
Find the Silver Lining
There’s good to be found in every situation, right? Well, even if you don’t believe that, it might help to convince yourself of it if you plunge into a less-than-ideal work schedule. Kerry Miller, an Indiana University graduate, didn’t mind being an overnight assignment editor at an L.A. news station. “I was excited at the opportunity because it’s not common that someone gets their first broadcast-news job in Los Angeles,” says Miller, who after eight months of working from 11 p.m. to 7 a.m. was finally moved to the day shift. “I knew it was temporary and I needed a place to start.”
Bill Reese, a Berkeley grad, knew he’d be giving up some weekends when he took a job as an account executive for a sports public relations firm, even if he wasn’t aware he’d be putting in 12-hour days at events like the Super Bowl and boxing matches in Atlantic City. But he says the flip side of his often-hectic weekend schedule is a very predictable 9-5 work week.
One of the most important features on your face are your eyes. One great way is to apply your makeup […]
Smelly feet, cracked heels and scaly skin on your feet are a sign of improper hygiene and neglect. […]
This article was first published on one of our Editors Ajit Gaddam’s personal blog
. You can check out the original article here
. Following is a reproduction of that article on how to Unlock your cell phone and get unlock codes for free
I recently lost my Cell phone while travelling abroad. Fortunately for me, I had an brand new cell phone which I got from T-Mobile for free when I renewed my contract with them, a Nokia 6010 hanging around. In most countries, there are pre-paid options for phones where you pay a provider some cash and you get a SIM card which you can plug into your phone and you are all set. However, the Nokia phone I had was locked to T-Mobile and I could not use my SIM card. This led me to go online and see if there are any methods out there to help me unlock and use my cellphone. Now, there are plently of sites out there which give you the unlock codes for your Nokia Cell phone. However, most of them charge anywhere from $9.99 to $65 to provide you with the unlock codes. Also, some of them only take payment in Euros. So, in this post, I will introduce you to two sites who provide you with unlock codes for your Nokia Cell phone absolutely FREE.
This site is the most popular free site for unlocking any Nokia based Cell phone and most of the cell phones out there. Some of their other brands for which they provide unlock codes include Siements, LG, NEC, Panasonic, Samsung, Sony Ericsson and Motorola based phones. The procedure for unlocking your Cell phone is as follows: 1. Start your phone without your new SIM or any SIM card in it 2. Now hit *#06# on your cell phone. When you do it, your IMEI number, a unique global serial number for your cell phone shows up. Your IMEI number should be 15 digits. 3. Now, choose the model of your Cell phone. If you don’t know your cell phone model number, you can always find out by removing the cell/battery of your phone. The model number along with the IMEI of the phone should be present. 4. Now, select the country and the operator the phone is locked to. For example “USA- T-Mobile” 5. You are now given the unlock codes for your cell phone. A lot of people have a problem punching in the alphabet p and w while entering the unlock codes. To enter the codes, here is a visual guide below as well as the step by step procedure
TrueCrypt is a free open source disk encryption software that works on both Windows and Linux platforms. No data stored on an encrypted volume can be read (decrypted) without using the correct password/keyfile(s) or correct encryption keys. TrueCrypt does this by creating a virtual hard drive that will read and write encrypted files on the fly. The advantage of using TrueCrypt is that you need not download it everywhere. All you need are the files truecrypt.exe, truecrypt.sys and the volume file you create which you can carry on your flash drive.
Step by Step Tutorial on how to encrypt your Hard disk or data or message using TrueCrypt
Step # 1: Download and install TrueCrypt
Step # 2: Once you Launch TrueCrypt, Click on “Create Volume” button. This launches the Volume Creation wizard that prepares the encryped drive location. Next, choose ” Create a Standard TrueCrypt Volume” and hit Next. Next, click on “Select File” button. Browse to a place where you want to store your encryped files. In this case, I am selecting askstudent.ajit Note: This is not the file you want to encrypt. Think of this as a Folder Name which in turn would contain the files you want to encrypt later on. Hit Next